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Bundle: EFCT Couples Work Total Toolbox (Best Value)

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Bundle: EFCT Couples Work Total Toolbox (Best Value) - everything you need to run effective EFCT from first contact to consolidation. Includes a visual Stages & Steps map, De-Escalation Quick Guide, Before-You-Begin Primer + 45 assessment questions, Validation Pack (20 scripts), and Stage 1, Stage 2, Stage 3 + Special Considerations guides. Save prep time, de-escalate faster, and create lasting bonding events.

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Before you Begin Primer for Your Couples (and 45 Assessment Questions)

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Use this brief overview to prepare your clients for the type of work you are about to embark on. You can provide it in a handout or your intake documents - or verbally in the first session or consult. Use the included 45 Assessment Questions to gather crucial information about your clients dynamic, if they are right for the EFCT model, and what their pain points are so you can get started with confidence.

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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Map of Stages and Steps

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Ever wish someone would just spell out what the EFCT process actually looks like? I did. Here is a visual map that breaks down the stages and steps of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy using the metaphor of traveling over mountains and rivers—so it actually clicks. Whether you’re a therapist or a couple just starting out, this tool takes the guesswork out and gives you the clarity you didn’t know you needed.

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(For Therapists) EFCT De‑Escalation Quick Guide for Couples Work

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Therapists: If Stage 1 keeps slipping into content, grab my EFCT De-Escalation Quick Guide. Inside: how to spot a spiral, “catch the bullet” when criticism hides longing, tell protection from real vulnerability, build trust with high-conflict couples, and know when you’re ready for Stage 2—plus 10 phrases and 2 anchor moves you can use Monday.

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Stage 1 Comprehension Guide

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Stage 1 Comprehension Guide — a clear, clinician-friendly roadmap for EFCT de-escalation. Build alliance, map the negative cycle, access primary emotion, and reframe problems in attachment terms so partners fight the pattern—not each other. Includes prompts, assessment cues, safety checks, core interventions, and a readiness checklist so you know when it’s time to move from Stage 1 to Stage 2.

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Stage 2 Comprehension Guide

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Stage 2 Comprehension Guide — a clinician-friendly roadmap for EFCT Steps 5–7. Build on de-escalation to access disowned needs, re-engage the withdrawer, and soften the pursuer. Learn heightening (RISSSSC), empathic conjecture, and safe enactments that turn inner experience into new interaction. Includes markers for change events, troubleshooting, and a clear map for the therapist.

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Stage 3 Comprehension Guide + Special Considerations

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Stage 3 Comprehension Guide + Special Considerations — your roadmap for EFCT consolidation. Help couples keep safety and connection while solving real problems, building rituals, and crafting a shared story of change. Includes preparation for graduation, therapist stems, trauma guidance, and Attachment Injury Resolution (AIR) steps, plus a clear exit checklist so gains last after therapy ends.

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Validation Pack: 20 Scripts and Phrases to Slow it Down

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Validation is crucial in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Especially in Stage 1, and especially when we are working with high-conflict couples. Yet, validation can be hard to do in session because truth be told it is at times so slow. Here are 20 scripts and phrases you can use if you struggle to slow down and validate in sessions with your couples.

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