Resource Library

Resources for You and Your Couples

This is where you’ll find the things I wish I’d had sooner:

Bite-sized trainings and tools to help you feel steadier in the EFCT room
Ready-made guides, workshops, and courses you can offer to couples as a foundation for the deeper work you’re doing together

Everything here is designed to save you time, support your clinical work, and give your clients clear, accessible education between sessions.

EFCT Therapist Tools

Tools for therapists use to develop, learn, grow and improve in their work with their couples.

Resources for Therapists

$15

"See-Me-Work" Full EFCT Session Transcript

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When I was a EFT newbie, all I wanted was to watch someone who knew the model well, to show me how THEY do the model with their couples. Now I have that for you!! In this transcript you will get to read a full session with a Stage 1 Couple. I provide in-line text explanations of what I am doing and when (what tango move, etc.) so that you can see our conversation, see my responses and see the model in action.

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(For Therapists) EFCT De‑Escalation Quick Guide for Couples Work

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Therapists: If Stage 1 keeps slipping into content, grab my EFCT De-Escalation Quick Guide. Inside: how to spot a spiral, “catch the bullet” when criticism hides longing, tell protection from real vulnerability, build trust with high-conflict couples, and know when you’re ready for Stage 2—plus 10 phrases and 2 anchor moves you can use Monday.

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ACA Health Insurance 2026 Changes: Essential Checklist for Therapists in Private Practice

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Discover how upcoming ACA health insurance changes in 2026 could impact self-employed therapists. This essential checklist helps private practice therapists understand rising Marketplace premiums, plan for possible fee changes, prepare conversations with clients about coverage, and protect both their wellbeing and their business.

$7

Before you Begin Primer for Your Couples (and 45 Assessment Questions)

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Use this brief overview to prepare your clients for the type of work you are about to embark on. You can provide it in a handout or your intake documents - or verbally in the first session or consult. Use the included 45 Assessment Questions to gather crucial information about your clients dynamic, if they are right for the EFCT model, and what their pain points are so you can get started with confidence.

$150

Bundle: EFCT Couples Work Total Toolbox (Best Value)

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7 Products

Bundle: EFCT Couples Work Total Toolbox (Best Value) - everything you need to run effective EFCT from first contact to consolidation. Includes a visual Stages & Steps map, De-Escalation Quick Guide, Before-You-Begin Primer + 45 assessment questions, Validation Pack (20 scripts), and Stage 1, Stage 2, Stage 3 + Special Considerations guides. Save prep time, de-escalate faster, and create lasting bonding events.

$7

EFCT Session Note Template

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This notes template is for EFCT Therapists to better track and monitor their couples progress through Stages 1, 2 and 3 of EFCT. The template helps to organize the couples cycle, the therapists own interpretations and insights, triggers, protective moves and where to pick up at the start of next session to keep progress rolling smoothly throughout treatment.

$7

EFCT Supervisor Note Template

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This notes template is for EFCT Supervisors working with EFCT Candidates who are either preparing their packet for certification, or merely seeking to grow in their own skills as an EFCT Therapist. This template provides the space for the supervisor to take notes on the candidates taped work, as well as a complete checklist for submission readiness and video submission requirements.

$7

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Map of Stages and Steps

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Ever wish someone would just spell out what the EFCT process actually looks like? I did. Here is a visual map that breaks down the stages and steps of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy using the metaphor of traveling over mountains and rivers—so it actually clicks. Whether you’re a therapist or a couple just starting out, this tool takes the guesswork out and gives you the clarity you didn’t know you needed.

$37

Fast-Track EFCT: From Externship to Certification Roadmap

Course
3 Lessons
Includes 1 additional product

Fast-Track EFCT is a 30–40 minute mini-workshop for EFCT/couples therapists who love the model but feel lost about certification. Learn an efficient path from Externship to certified, how to use supervision and taping intentionally, plus get a Supervision Skills & Session Tracker and bonus “See-Me-Work” transcript of an entire session with a Stage 1 couple early in their work.

Includes 1 Additional Product

Supervision Session and Skills Tracker

$15

Stage 1 Comprehension Guide

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Stage 1 Comprehension Guide — a clear, clinician-friendly roadmap for EFCT de-escalation. Build alliance, map the negative cycle, access primary emotion, and reframe problems in attachment terms so partners fight the pattern—not each other. Includes prompts, assessment cues, safety checks, core interventions, and a readiness checklist so you know when it’s time to move from Stage 1 to Stage 2.

$15

Stage 2 Comprehension Guide

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Stage 2 Comprehension Guide — a clinician-friendly roadmap for EFCT Steps 5–7. Build on de-escalation to access disowned needs, re-engage the withdrawer, and soften the pursuer. Learn heightening (RISSSSC), empathic conjecture, and safe enactments that turn inner experience into new interaction. Includes markers for change events, troubleshooting, and a clear map for the therapist.

$15

Stage 3 Comprehension Guide + Special Considerations

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Stage 3 Comprehension Guide + Special Considerations — your roadmap for EFCT consolidation. Help couples keep safety and connection while solving real problems, building rituals, and crafting a shared story of change. Includes preparation for graduation, therapist stems, trauma guidance, and Attachment Injury Resolution (AIR) steps, plus a clear exit checklist so gains last after therapy ends.

$7

Supervision Session and Skills Tracker

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A simple, powerful tool to make every supervision hour count. This tracker helps you organize cases, identify stuck points, set clear EFCT-focused questions, and plan micro-goals for your next session. Build confidence, track your growth, and move toward certification with clarity and intention—one supervision hour at a time.

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The Efficient EFCT Certification Pathway Guide

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The Efficient EFCT Certification Pathway is a free guide for EFT therapists who love the model but feel lost. Get a clear, faster map from Externship to certification.

$35

The Stages Bundle

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4 Products

This is the perfect "starter pack" bundle for EFCT Curious therapists or those new to the model. You get my EFCT Explainer fast sheet, and then my Stage 1, Stage 2 and Stage 3 Complete Comprehension Guides. These tools will explain what EFCT is in a nutshell and then lead you right into what it looks like in practice and why it is so effective for couples in therapy.

$15

Validation Pack: 20 Scripts and Phrases to Slow it Down

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Validation is crucial in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Especially in Stage 1, and especially when we are working with high-conflict couples. Yet, validation can be hard to do in session because truth be told it is at times so slow. Here are 20 scripts and phrases you can use if you struggle to slow down and validate in sessions with your couples.

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What is EFCT (Explainer)?

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What is EFCT anyway? In this explainer guide I give you the run-down on what Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is, why it's considered the Gold Standard of Couples Therapy by the APA, what it can do for your practice, your career and your effectiveness as a couples therapist (and raises your rates)!

Tools for Your Clients

Supplemental support for general therapeutic education, exercises and support to use in session with your clients to prime them for deeper EFCT work.

Resources for Couples/Clients

$35

A "Better Way" Cooperative Parenting Webinar

Webinar
Sep 25, 2024 at 12:00 AM EDT

This workshop is for parents who know they love each other, but are struggling to adapt to the challenges of family life, and the shift from "Partners" to "Parents". This is for you if: You feel confused and alone, even though you KNOW you love each other, thinking that there HAS to be a better way, not willing to settle for the burn out, and are ready for new ways of interacting with your partner.

$35

Adoption and Us: Strengthening Our Bond Through the Journey

Course
15 Lessons

Adoption is a life-changing journey filled with hope but can bring unexpected emotions & put stress on your partnership. I designed this course to help couples navigate the complexities of adoption & deepen their connection. We’ll explore ways to: Maintain & strengthen your bond w/ effective communication Cope with the grief that can accompany infertility & adoption Embrace this process as a team w/ practical tools

$35

Apology and Forgiveness Webinar

Webinar
Oct 21, 2024 at 12:00 AM EDT

Welcome to our Apology and Forgiveness Workshop! In this workshop we're going to learn: +Why Apologies and Forgiveness Are Needed +What an Apology Is and Isn't / What Forgiveness Is and Isn't +When we Need to Apologize and Forgive +Why It's Hard to Apologize and Forgive +How the Lack of Forgiveness Erodes Relationships +How to Apologize and Forgive Effectively +And more...

$35

Better Together Marriage Workshop

Webinar
Oct 14, 2024 at 12:00 AM EDT

We're so glad you chose us to Build Your Better Marriage! In our workshop we're going to learn: + 5 Crucial Skills that Healthy Couples Have and How to Implement Them + How to Respond Instead of React + How to Rewind and PREVENT Resentment + How to Discuss Sex, Finances, Stalemates and MORE!

$75

Communication for Connection Course

Course
17 Lessons

Welcome to our Communication for Connection Course! This is for You If.. + You and your partner fight in circles, defensiveness & blame are common, talking about vulnerable things is impossible & sweeping things under the rug is all you can do. We’re going to learn: +Where Communication Breaks Down +What Are We REALLY Trying to Say? +Identifying Your Needs +How to Communicate For Connection and more!

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Decompression Detour

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New parents often feel overloaded and don't know how to ask for help. Feeling overloaded and alone is a recipe for disaster. This tool helps you learn how to ask for help without guilt getting in the way, and in ways that are effective and avoid defensiveness.

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Defensiveness Deep Dive

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Defensiveness Deep Dive. What is Defensiveness and Why Do We Do It? It is natural and normal, to have an urge to protect yourself when youfeel hurt, guilt, shame, sadness, or anger. But is there a better way to protect than knee-jerk defensive behaviors in our relationships? Read on to find out.

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Defensiveness Detour

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How to prevent defensiveness from derailing your relationship.

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Emotion Exploration Tool

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A tool to help you learn how to understand, and interact with your internal life (and emotions) in a healthy and constructive way.

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Emotional Assembly Worksheet

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A Tool to Practice Understanding Emotion in Your Life

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Emotional Intelligence 101

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Emotional Intelligence is a skill that anyone can learn. If you feel like your EQ is in need of some work, then this worksheet is for you!

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Emotional Regulation in Parenting

Webinar
Oct 29, 2024 at 12:00 AM EDT

Welcome to our Emotional Regulation in Parenting Workshop! Today We'll Learn: +What Emotional Regulation Is & Why it’s Important +How To: Self-Regulate (Explained in 4 Bite-Size Steps +Self-Care with it All +Special Considerations like Guilt, Comparison and What to Do When Our Partners Aren’t Helping. This is for you if: +You Find Yourself Reactive (yelling, empty threats, etc.) with Your Kids When They’re Acting Out

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Friendship Depth Checklist

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Not all friendships reach the depths of true emotional connection. Some stay in the shallows—fun, but surface-level—while others offer deep trust, support, and authenticity. This quick checklist will help you assess whether your friendship has the depth you crave or if it's stuck in the shallow end. Ready to find out?

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From the Shallows to the Depths: 4-Day Relationship Challenge

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The goal of this challenge is to get couples talking and connecting like they haven’t before. This is intended to bring a couple closer, not highlight deficits and point a finger or create blame and shame. This is intended to be a quick but meaningful part of your next four days. This isn’t meant to be a huge time-suck or weight. Each day’s activities should take no more than 15 minutes of your time.

$35

Hard Truths Series: Barriers to Better

Webinar
Oct 21, 2024 at 12:00 AM EDT

Welcome to our Barriers to Better Workshop! A no holds barred exploration of what you’re doing in your relationship that is keeping you stuck & lonely. In this worksop we'll explore 6 of these common barriers, including: +Lack of Accountability +Waiting for the Other Person to Change First +Defensiveness +The Victim Mentality +"But We Tried That And It Didn't Work." +The "Brute Punisher"

Free

Holiday Harmony Workshop

Webinar
Nov 14, 2024 at 12:00 AM EST

Seasons Greetings & Welcome to our Holiday Harmony Workshop! In this short workshop we will offer some practical strategies to help couples strengthen their connection, manage stress, and enjoy the holidays together! PLUS: I give you a list of holiday activities you can do together to create magic for your connection this season that WONT break the bank!

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Resentment Rewind

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How to understand, undo and prevent Resentment in your relationships.

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Responsibility Revamp

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Our lives look different with kids! We are new to this and everything is insance. How we did things before, obviously isn't going to work. How we approach our lives before, is outdated. Use the prompts in this worksheet to re-establish what our life looks like now and how can manage it to the best of our ability so we both feel equally accepted and respected.

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Self-Regulation Sit Down

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A solo check-in, and reset for the overwhelmed part in all of us.

$75

The Last Try Method

Course
15 Lessons

A relationship repair course for when you’re not ready to give up — and not ready for therapy. You're exhausted. Distant. Maybe even wondering if it's already over. You love your partner — but lately, it feels like you're speaking different languages. You're tired of the same fights, the emotional distance, the loneliness in a relationship that’s supposed to feel like home. You’ve tried everything... except this.

$7

The Overwhelmed Family: A Guide for Re‑Organizing Our Life

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A practical guide to right-size the week + your life, carry the load together, and cut the excess so your connection has room to breathe. In 30 minutes, map capacity, re-label “musts,” agree on “wants/needs”, and launch a two-week pilot that starts with small shifts, and results in a lighter life and stronger us. Therapist use: For couples in Stage 3 (Consolidation) of EFCT

$150

The Relationship Refresher Bundle

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14 Products

Welcome to our Relationship Refresher Bundle! This is for the couple ready to dive right in and re-vamp their relationship, and get out of the spin-cycle of "blah" and "bust". In it you'll get: Apology and Forgiveness Workshop Better Together Marriage (i.e. relationship) Workshop Hard Truths: Barriers to Better Workshop Communication for Connection Course Plus FULL access to everything in our Resource Library!

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The Skilled Relationship Masterclass

Webinar
Oct 21, 2024 at 10:30 AM EDT

Welcome to The Skilled Relationship Masterclass! In it you'll learn: -That We Don’t Have to Settle for Unhappy Relationships -Why We Do the Things We Do in Relationships (And How to Change That) -7 Basic Healthy Relationship Skills that Act as Pillars to Our Better Relationship -How to Equip Ourselves in this Pursuit -And More! +Plus you get a freebie! So make sure you stay till the end!

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Weekly Check-In

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Our Weekly Check-in Guide gives you guidance and structure to stay connected and in-tune with your partner during the busiest seasons of life. Whether we’re in need of repair, or doing great, this check-in can recenter a couple in need, or be a preventative tool to keep that connection alive.

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Why, What, How Strategy for Effective Discipline

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Tired of feeling out of control with your parenting strategy? Use our Why, What, How Strategy for Effective Discipline that not only helps your child respond in the short term, but teaches them valuable skills in the long term. Research backed skills for parents at your fingertips.