About me.
A therapist that is telling you you may not need therapy. But you do need something.
I’m a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, wife and mother, and I created The Last Try Method because after nearly a decade of working with clients at my practice, I kept seeing the same thing: couples waiting too long to seek help, one person trying, or both people stuck.
So I built something different: a no-judgment, therapist-designed method to real repair.
Some use it as a stepping stone if therapy is in their future but they're not ready yet. Some use it as a bridge program, or an earnest first step to avoid therapy all together. Some use it as a last try before calling things off.
No matter how you use it, one thing is true: It is the answer for those couples who can't or wont get therapy but who still deserve help, now.
Is this you? If so, you're in the right place.
We've changed in ways I don't recognize. We're not the same couple that we were when we first got together - and that's not good.
I've asked time and again and I either get shutdown immediately or get told "yeah we'll go" and it never happens. If they want to go to therapy with me, they need to prove it by taking the initiative and they wont.
When things are "good" then we're fine. But the minute something negative or serious comes up it turns into a blowout. They keep misunderstanding me and believe the worst in me no matter how much I try.
It feels like I'm the only one who cares about how unhappy we are. Are they just content to settle and be miserable like this?
There's no passion or fun anymore. We're ships in the night and roommates at best. What's the point of staying together? Am I ever going to feel loved or wanted again?
I'm exhausted and hopeless. Yet - I don't want to give up. I'm confused but know that I need something to change.
What you get.
Tools on your terms. Do it in a weekend or at your own pace.
🎓 6 Therapist-Designed Video Modules
📘 The Last Try Workbook
🧍♀️ Solo Repair Tools
🗣️ Communication Scripts
📝 Weekly Check-In Templates
This isn't instagram advice. It's a method based in attachment science and research.
This isn’t fluff. It’s emotionally focused repair — the exact model I use in couples therapy, adapted for real life.
Let me ask you two questions:
Do your fights escalate in the blink of an eye?
Do you know the attachment science behind why that is?
My guess is you answered yes to 1 and no to 2. That is because no one teaches us how to navigate our relationships when things get real and repair skills are needed. We're expected to just "figure it out".
No wonder research shows that many relationships often struggle to survive past year five.
Saying what we really need is one thing. Saying what we really need EFFECTIVELY in a way that our partner can hear and respond to is another thing entirely. To communicate better we need to learn what communication is and what it isn't.
If resentment, unresolved hurts and lack of belief in our partner has left you reeling then you need me to tell you this: repair is possible but only through re-establishing emotional safety and trust. Only through exploring the hurts that bind us, and building on a new foundation that doesn't erase the past but also doesn't keep us prisoners to it.
Therapy may not be right for us - but we still need help and are invested in ourselves to get it. But is this really the help we need?
You want to stay together, but not like this
You’re the one trying harder
Therapy feels out of reach
You’ve done the surface stuff and feel stuck
You want to start repairing, with or without them
Ongoing abuse or control
Active infidelity with no change
Untreated substance issues
Safety comes first. If you’re unsure, reach out to a trained professional or local help hotlines. You can text BEGIN to 88788.
If by this point your thinking therapy IS your next step we can get you connected with a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist. Reach out below and we'll help you find someone in your area.
Start here. With our (FREE) From the Shallows to the Depths: 4-Day Relationship Challenge.
The goal of this challenge is to get couples talking and connecting like they haven't before.
This is intended to bring a couple closer, not highlight deficits and point a finger or create blame.
This is intended to be a quick but meaningful part of your next four days.
Each day's activities take no more than 15-minutes. Do you have at least one combined hour of time over the next 4-days to devote to testing your relationships depth and improving it?
Testimonials section
Here is what couples who began applying the methods and education taught in this course have to say:
"It's so validating to know we aren't alone. I didn't know I needed to hear some of this but it's changed how I look at our relationships and interactions."
"We didn't realize how much we didn't know. Learning about each other in this way was so helpful."
"We've avoided conflicts that used to send us spiraling. I'm so glad we have these tools now."
One-Time Payment: $1,397
You get:
✔ Lifetime access
✔ Therapist-created tools at a fraction of what it would cost to access it in therapy
✔ Self-paced work that takes the pressure off and allows results to settle in
For couples that aren't ready for therapy - you risk wasting weeks of expensive and time consuming sessions (usually paid for by the more willing partner) only to find out that therapy scares your partner and you deeper into a hole.
Instead, invest in a method created by a therapist who cut the fluff of therapy and condensed the basics. This concentrated approach saves you time, saves you money and allows you to take control over your relationships direction.
(Pro-tip: Split the cost of the program and start on a foundation of engaged partnership right out of the gate.)
You get all of this:
🎓 6 Therapist-Designed Video Modules
📘 The Last Try Workbook
🧍♀️ Solo Repair Tools
🗣️ Communication Scripts
📝 Weekly Check-In Templates
A value of over $4k in time and resources for less than half the price.
💡 Did you know? The average couple waits 6 years before getting help. Don't let that be you. Don’t wait longer.
Here is a behind the scenes look of everything you can expect because we're not about gate-keeping. We're about providing tools.
What’s Inside Your Course Materials
This course isn’t just theory—it’s action. The Last Try Method comes with carefully designed tools to guide you step-by-step through meaningful change, whether you're working on your relationship together or going it alone.
✔ The Last Try Workbook
Your go-to companion throughout the course, this workbook is packed with powerful exercises, real-life examples, and therapist-developed prompts that actually move the needle. Use it to track progress, reflect deeply, and build insight session by session.
✔ Solo Repair Tools
Change doesn’t always start with both people. If your partner isn’t ready to engage, these tools are designed for you to begin creating positive shifts on your own—while preserving your peace and your dignity.
✔ Communication Scripts
Stop guessing what to say or how to say it. These therapist-crafted scripts help you tackle tough conversations with clarity and calm. Whether you’re addressing conflict, expressing needs, or repairing after a rupture, these scripts take the edge off emotionally charged moments.
✔ Check-In Templates
Reconnect with structure and intention. These templates are simple but powerful tools to help you and your partner (or you alone) assess progress, share feelings, and build consistency—so you can start to feel like a team again.
Welcome to The Last Try Method
A therapist-created relationship repair course for when you’re not ready to give up — and not ready for therapy.
If you’re here, it likely means something’s not working. Maybe your relationship feels like it’s hanging by a thread. Maybe you’ve had the same fight for the hundredth time. Or maybe things have grown so quiet between you, you wonder if there’s anything left to save.
But you’re here.
And that means something hasn’t given up yet — even if you’re tired, unsure, or going through this alone.
This course was built for exactly that place — the in-between.
Between staying and leaving. Between silence and shouting. Between loving each other and losing each other.
You won’t find quick fixes here. You will find depth, clarity, tools, and emotional truth — grounded in over two decades of relationship research and the proven principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Whether your partner is on board or not, this course can help you see what’s really happening, shift your role in the cycle, and begin to repair the emotional bond.
This is a last try — not because it’s your last chance, but because it’s the first time you’re doing something different. More informed. More intentional. More honest.
I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.
Before you can fix anything, you have to understand what’s broken. In this module, you’ll identify the hidden emotional patterns that keep you stuck and begin to understand the deeper dynamics driving your conflict — so you can finally see the problem clearly and start changing it.
When things heat up, it’s easy to say things you don’t mean or shut down completely. This module teaches you how to regulate your emotions in real time — so you can stop the downward spiral and respond from a place of clarity, not chaos.
Communication can’t create connection if it triggers defensiveness. This module teaches you how to express what you need in a way that builds safety, lowers defenses, and makes space for real change — whether your partner is participating or not.
Lingering hurt can silently poison a relationship. In this module, you’ll learn how to repair emotional injuries in a way that actually works — using research-backed strategies to rebuild trust and make peace with the past, even if your partner isn’t ready to apologize.
Disconnection can start to feel permanent — but closeness is something you can rebuild. In this module, you’ll learn the science of emotional bonding and walk through simple, powerful practices to help you feel safer, closer, and more connected again — both emotionally and physically.
You’ve done the work — now it’s time to decide what comes next. In this final module, you’ll reflect on what’s changed, what’s still needed, and whether your relationship has the safety and willingness it needs to grow. You’ll leave with clarity, direction, and a path forward — whether together or apart.
You Did the Work — Now What?
By now, you’ve learned how to recognize the patterns keeping you stuck, how to calm the spiral, how to communicate with clarity and care, how to repair what’s been broken, and how to reconnect emotionally and physically.
That’s not a small thing. That’s transformational work — even if it hasn’t all clicked into place yet. Even if you still have questions. Even if your partner hasn’t met you in the middle.
You’ve shown up. You’ve slowed down. You’ve learned a new way of loving.
So what happens next?
That part is up to you.
Some people finish this course with renewed hope. Others walk away with a clearer understanding of what they need — and what they can no longer accept. Still others feel a pause: a sense that things aren’t fixed, but something important has shifted inside them.
Wherever you land, this course was never about just one outcome. It was about giving you the tools to move forward with clarity. To stop repeating the same cycle. To make the next right choice — for you.
If you want support in going deeper, therapy may be your next step. If you want to keep practicing these tools, you can revisit any part of this course at any time. And if you need a moment to breathe before you decide? Take it. You’ve earned it.
One last thing: There is nothing weak about wanting love that feels good.
There is nothing broken about wanting to stay — or to go — with clarity and care.
And there is always hope for change. Always.
We hope that this has been educational, informative and transformative for you and your partner. I am always so curious to know how these courses touch you and so I welcome any and all feedback. Please email me at support@thebetterrelationship.com with your comments. If you enjoyed this, don’t forget that there are so many more workshops, courses and worksheets that you can use to target specific areas in your relationship that need some help.Thank you for trusting us and committing to building a better relationship. See you soon.
*The Last Try Method* is here for when you want to stay — but not like this.